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How to encourage appropriate behavior...

• ways to say no..."I think I have another partner"
• If it's true!
• Please don't say "I'm sitting this one out" or "I have a partner" if it's not true. IT IS OKAY to just say "No thank you" without an excuse.
• If guys are too creepy, don't just smile, say something.
• How can we respectfully communicate our social values? (There is an unspoken taboo about alcohol and folk dance that doesn't get clearly communicated to beginners in many cases.)
• Be clear.
• Maybe talk during the break about what we do and don't like - sweaty shirts, too tight grips, extra twirls, etc. Offer a discussion circle to express preferences.
• Reject those who consistently make you feel uncomfortable, without offering up an excuse.
• And if someone does ask why, just say "I don't feel comfortable dancing with you" and don't feel bad about it. It's hard, but it works.
• If the way your partner is dancing makes you feel uncomfortable (physically or it's just creeping you out), stop the swing/courtesy turn/whatever and say "please don't hold me like that."
• A side strategy would be to reassure people (esp. beginners) that it's ok to turn down an offer to dance. NO EXCUSES NECESSARY!
• If a partner is doing something that is harmful or dangerous, physically move them (their hand, the distance, etc.) into a more safe/comfortable position.

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